“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” – Coco Chanel
One Valentine’s Day in college, I had no plans and neither did a classmate, a female one. We were both home for the weekend and usually didn’t hang out outside of school but defaulted to each other of all nights. She was adamant that it was “not a date,” and we were “just friends.”
We watched Daredevil in theaters. The Ben Affleck one. Remember that movie? Sadly, I do. Along with its Evanescence-y soundtrack.
While my “friend” and I discussed the Terms and Conditions of the night, deep down I was just happy to see a Marvel movie. Though in the end, no one was happy to see the Daredevil movie.
What I really remember is how I felt. I was proud to be a nerd in that theater and sincerely happy to be doing something on Valentine’s Day. Though half of me would’ve also been content to be at home playing PS2. All this while still being shunned in the Friend Zone anyway. But it wouldn’t have been a crushing blow.
Valentine’s Day can suck for a lot people. Things can get confusing and then perpetuate for a long miserable night. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Not if you do something intentional. Something that isn’t self-afflicting and degrading on identity. Make it worth your time and the time of those around you. If it’s romantic, give a little more effort. If it’s plutonic, express. If it’s solo, reflect.
I’m happy to have fallen back on the fact that I was stoked watching DD and relying less on the fact that I was on a pseudo date with someone who was so persistent that we were just friends.
It’s possible to have fun by yourself and with others. Just be true.
What do you think about Valentine’s Day? Is it all hype or is there something beyond the cheese and commercialism?
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